Top 10 Wedding Rules That Were Meant To Be Broken

Wedding planning often comes with opinions and a whole heaping amount of tradition. So what's a nearlywed to do when they'd like to do something slightly different? Well, we're here to let you know that you're welcome to throw all those rules out the window. If you're feeling a little rebellious and want to make your big day more you and less traditional, we're here to help! So get ready to throw the wedding rule book out the window, because we're breaking tradition and going our own way today. Who's with us?

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This myth should have gone out the window centuries ago. Though, to be fair, for a lot of different cultures this rule is actually nonexistent. However, many western European (and now modern American cultures) traditions dictate that a bride must wear white. This tradition originated (supposedly) from Queen Victoria herself, the famous "Virgin Queen." Yes, that's right, the pure white gown is meant to symbolize the bride's purity (ie: virginity) as she is about to join her partner in marriage. We can probably safely say that not everyone getting married these days is as "pure" as Queen Victoria herself, so maybe it's time to mix things up a bit?

While white wedding gowns certainly are traditional, they are absolutely not a necessity. Brides can and should wear the color that makes them feel the most beautiful, period end of sentence.

This myth was adopted purely for the sake of photographs. Sure, it may look more "balanced" to have an equal number of bridesmaids and groomsmen standing alongside you and your sweetie—but it's definitely not a must. If you've got three close mixed gender friends and they've got three-thousand, you should both honor the exact number of people that you see fit no matter what gender they are. Or, if you don't want to play favorites, forget the wedding party altogether and just include everyone!

Numbers have been thrown out from $10,000 to $100,000 as the benchmark for what makes a beautiful wedding. The truth is, inexpensive affairs can be just as stunning as the biggest blowout ceremony you've ever seen. What matters is the thought that goes into the planning, not the dollar signs. Between backyard weddings and DIY big days, money definitely still can't buy you love!

Wedding parties (or bridal parties depending on your gender) typically mean the dreaded ill-fitting and all-matching dress sets that are guaranteed to not work on at least one person's body or skin tone. How many movies do we have to have about bad bridesmaid's dresses before we can all just give it up and do what we want?

Why go to all that trouble forcing your nearest and dearest to wear the same exact thing when allowing people to wear different colors (hello ombre!) or even different styles can still look cohesive as long as they all have the same vibe? These dresses may be all different colors and cutes, but they still feel right all together! So let's get some variety going...

Short dresses were actually quite popular in the 50s but soon fell out of fashion in favor of longer more formal or traditional gowns. But we're saying, no more! Why stress yourself out about tripping and spend all that extra money on a huge gown? Not to mention... have you ever tried to pee in one of those big things? Because take it from us that is a whole kind of production that requires at least one assistant to lift ruffles and potentially another spotter for support, so maybe it's time we make things a little easier on ourselves and save the extra fabric for the decor. Go short!

There are so many different options depending on who you are or what you like, why restrict yourself? These days, many more nearlyweds are opting for outfits that suit their style, gender, and comfort level. Your big day is all about you and the love of your life, so wear what makes you feel good, whether that's a jumpsuit, a tux, a crop top skirt combo, or anything else out there in the world (just maybe not your birthday suit).

Honeymoons, as we know them today, are actually pretty new, but the term originates all the way back when couples would drink mead (honey wine) according to the moon cycles, so that's where you get "honeymoon." This later translated to couples in the 19th century going on bridal tours to visit friends and family who couldn't make it to their wedding (basically delivery I do's), and now it translates to taking a huge, bank-busting vacation right after you just threw the biggest party of your life... Okay, maybe that won't work for everyone.

Let's get real, not everyone has the money to throw a massive bash and then go on a two-week vacation (also who has that much vacation time?!). These days many couples are opting for a mini-moon instead — a short weekender at a more local destination. This could mean a bed and breakfast in New England or a desert camp out in the South West, but whatever it is it's a bit more affordable a lot less time, and no less full of love!

Weddings are about celebrating love and forming a new beautiful union between two people, and that has no requirements (except for the whole love and two people thing). Whether you're at home sitting on your couches with your closest friends and family or head over to city hall with just the two of you in your Sunday best, there's no shortage of love wherever you're saying your I do's! It's all about doing what's best for you!

P.S. We love that this couple is breaking multiple rules! We see you in that short dress, and we love it!

Whoever first said weddings needed to be a formal affair didn't know how to have enough fun in life. Honestly, who doesn't want more dogs literally anywhere? Not to mention there are so many fun ways to integrate your BFF (best furry friend): flower pup, ring bearer, or a member of your wedding paw-rty. You can even dress them up in a color-coordinated bow tie!

False. It's 2020, and people can do whatever they want to do! Get married, have babies, don't have babies, or don't get married in any order and in any combination. The times of the traditional nuclear family are long gone so let's stop telling people what they can or cannot do. Not to mention, this whole "rule" completely leaves out mixed families with people who may have children from a prior relationship. So let's dump this rule once and for all and start celebrating couples with one on the way or kids already invited to the wedding!

Plus, if you already have a kid you basically have a built-in ring bearer or flower pal already. Remember that rules were made to be broken, and stepping away from tradition could make your wedding a stand-out and it will definitely make your wedding more you.