How to Handle Meeting the Parents for the First Time

With all of the shopping, wrapping, and parties the holidays bring, this time of year is already stressful. However, if you add to it the possible anxiety that surrounds meeting your love's parents (and extended family) for the first time, you might just feel as though your stress level is in overdrive. First, take a breath. Then read these five tips that are sure to calm you down and help to ensure your first meeting goes smoothly! 

You've likely talked to your sweetheart about his or her family time and time again, but chat some more and review everyone's name, occupation, and favorite hobbies. We're not suggesting memorizing everything about those you're about to meet, but knowing a few general facts will help you to start meaningful conversations. 

Conversations can go much more smoothly when nerves are involved if you think about yourself beforehand too. What do you love about your job? Did you take a fun vacation this year? What do you love about your family and upbringing that you might be able to tie into a tradition or experience your partner's family might share? 

Make sure to talk to your love about the holiday dress code so you know whether to opt for a dress and heels rather than your favorite cardigan, jeans, and flats. But whatever the dress code, comfort is essential! If you're not sure about your outfit, change it. If you're nervous about wearing heels because you're more comfortable in flats, wear flats. Being comfortable in your style will make you feel much more confident overall.

Always offer to bring something to dinner, and consider bringing flowers or a bottle of wine too. If you've never talked to your love's parents before, opt for formal titles (Mr. Mrs., Dr., etc) and allow them to suggest you refer to them by their first names. When talking to grandparents, aunts, and uncles, add in their title too along with their first name (ie: Grandma June). Lastly, always offer to help prepare and clean up. Doing something will keep your mind (and theirs) focused on the task at hand as you navigate getting-to-know-you conversations. 

Most people are nervous when they're meeting someone for the first time. Never feel as though you're the only one --because your love and his or her family are likely feeling the same way! Everyone in the situation is hoping to truly enjoy the time spent with each other, so remember you all have the same goal in mind.