What To Do Post-Proposal

You should probably include some time to snuggle with your sweetie, but once you feel ready, make those phone calls! Sharing your engagement with the people you love is one of the things that will make your engagement feel really real. In my experience, it’s one of the most exciting parts of the entire engagement. Don’t worry too much about letting everyone know just yet—we’ll give you more details about how to do all that in a bit. For now, just focus on sharing the news with the people closest to you.

If you were recently proposed to, I’m willing to bet there was a ring involved. I’m also willing to bet that you’ll be showing that ring off a lot over the next few weeks (or months). That’s why it’s so important to make sure it’s protected! Ask your partner whether they’ve purchased a wedding ring insurance policy and, if they haven’t, start doing your research on the available options.

Chances are there will be many people—coworkers, friends, strangers—grabbing your hands in the next couple of weeks. You want to make sure they’re focusing on the sparkle of the ring rather than that stubborn hangnail. Treat yourself to some of our favorite nail care & ring care products:

As a newly engaged couple, one of your first steps should be talking about your overall timeline. We don’t recommend getting your heart set on a specific date yet as things are bound to change during the planning process, but you’ll want to be on the same page when it comes to the approximate length of your engagement, the season you may want to get married in, and things like that. Having these conversations upfront will make things much easier down the line, especially when it comes to planning all of the smaller details. So, give yourself the space to figure out what works best for both of you. If you want some tips on how to get those conversations started, check out this Loverly article!

Everything in the wedding planning process essentially comes down to numbers—how many people, how much money, what time of day. While we don’t expect you (or even want you!) to have a firm list of everyone you want at your wedding on Day 1, having a rough estimate of how many people you want to invite will really help you figure out what type of event you want to throw. Your guest list estimates will impact locations, budgets, and even the time of year you’re looking at. Set aside a chunk of time to sit down with your partner and do a brain dump of all your potential wedding guests. Again, not all of them have to make the final guest list, but you will find yourself referring to this planning session many, many times over the course of your wedding planning process.

The rough brainstorming conversations are a good way to get some ideas down on the table, but make sure that you aren't looking too far ahead to miss what’s in front of you. You’re engaged! Take some time, be it hours or days, to take in this amazing time in your lives before you get too overwhelmed with planning the next one. Take lots of photos, cuddle a lot, and appreciate all the blissful moments you share with your partner. Building a solid, loving foundation will help the rest of wedding planning go much more smoothly.

We know, we know. But hear us out. As exciting as the “I said yes!” post can be, it also is really hard to close that door once you’ve opened it. You’ll inevitably find your DMs flooded with other people’s opinions on caterers, locations, and...everything else really! There is absolutely nothing wrong with a social media post once you’re ready, but we highly encourage you to give yourselves some time to celebrate the news privately with close friends and family before getting the whole world involved. Even well-meaning comments can be overwhelming!

Saying “Yes!” to a proposal is a big deal. It doesn’t mean you should keep saying “Yes!”, though. When your friend asks to be your wedding photographer… think about it. When your fiance asks if you want to adopt a cat… think about it. Thinking about it doesn’t mean saying “No”, it means taking the time to really consider how your decisions will affect you.

You’re going to have a lot on your plate in the coming months, and saying “Yes” can be an easy way to cope. Our only advice is that you don’t rush into anything. Make time to put yourself first and give yourself lots of time to enjoy engaged life and plan your wedding. Also, working with friends and family can get really complicated really quickly. Give it lots of thought before you accept any well-meaning offers to “help.” 

Excitement is an amazing part of the engagement experience. You’ll probably want to talk about it with everyone, and who can blame you. You’re getting married! Your friends, family, and coworkers will be thrilled to talk with you about the engagement and wedding at first, but they’ll probably be less thrilled when you’re still talking about it six... twelve... eighteen months down the line. Save the gushing for your partner, your bestie, and people who ask. Try not to brag about what your spouse-to-be spent on the ring, how much money your family is giving you for the day, or how happy you're in your relationship. You never know what kind of struggles the people around you are navigating!