Celebrate Love in a Different Way This Valentine's Day with These Ideas for Greater Intimacy

Intimacy is essential for a healthy, long-lasting relationship. A romantic connection goes well beyond physical closeness. It's what makes you feel loved, seen, understood, and supported. Investing in intimacy outside of the bedroom will also improve your sex life. And that's a win-win in our book! Thankfully, intimacy is easy and fun to foster! Whether you prefer deep conversation over a five-star meal or a casual afternoon spent enjoying shared hobbies, check out romantic ways that you can nurture intimacy in your relationship this Valentine’s Day.

At the mention of intimacy people often think of sex. But there are 5 different types of intimacy, all of which are important in their own right. From cultivating trust and respect to empathy, each of these ideas or activities falls into a category. Consider which one best aligns with your partner's needs and interests!

One of the best ways to build intimacy is to spend extended periods of quality time together. One-on-one time will help break down your walls and allow you to dive into deeper conversations, like ongoing struggles in your relationship or what your future together might look like. For this Valentine’s Day, consider planning a multi-day road trip or even an overnight stay at a local luxury Airbnb.

You’ve probably heard that adrenaline can sometimes be attached to a person. For this reason, we encourage you to try new things alongside your partner. More specifically, activities that lie outside of your comfort zone. This could entail taking a day trip to a local amusement park or bungee jumping. Face your fears together to establish trust and build empathy for one another's emotions.

Chances are you’ve found some hobbies that you share with your partner. One of the best things you can do is make time for these interests. Maybe that's taking pottery classes, playing a league sport, or reading the same book. Investing in these activities will allow you to build skills and revel in the experience together, strengthening your bond as a team. It is also an effective way to show support for your partner's passions.

To some people flirting is natural, to others it takes a little work. Regardless, actively flirting with your partner will go a long way to show an ongoing interest. So slap their butt, be a bit of a tease, or maintain eye contact a little longer than you normally would. In the long run, it will boost their ego by fulfilling the need for safety and love. This is an important feeling, even in a monogamous relationship. It is also a great way to build your confidence!

Collaborative projects or activities are not only fun but will strengthen your relationship. Taking on challenges together will help you feel more connected as you share in and work to overcome obstacles. It can also establish trust and safety, as you discover the areas in which each person excels. Try a new recipe, or some sort of construction, like building a piece of furniture or even a LEGO set.

You don’t need a dance floor to bust a move. Instead, shift some living room furniture out of the way and put on your favorite tunes. Whether it's a slow dance or something more upbeat doesn’t matter. The goal is to partake in prolonged physical touch and eye contact that isn’t inherently sexual. Try not to take this activity too seriously. If you need a little extra help, you can learn a dance from or follow an instructor on Youtube.

Being an adult is hard. Letting loose every once in a while is essential for our sanity. And alongside your partner, it's a great way to stir up some nostalgia and excitement. This date is fun and simple, perfect if you’re limited on time or money. A few options include building a fort in your living room, visiting a nearby playground, or playing your favorite board games. Remember, the goal is to have fun in the most basic sense!