How to Deal With Conflicting Wedding Events (Yikes)
08 Aug 2022 •3 min read
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So, how do you deal when two events fall on the same day? Don’t worry, Loverlies! We’re here to help you avoid the drama. Here are our rules for how to deal with conflicting events. If you have two weddings on the same day…
1Check the schedule and locations
If the events happen to be relatively near each other (i.e. in the same city), then you may have some wiggle room. And if the timing is right, you could potentially go to Wedding A's ceremony and Wedding B's reception. Just make sure you talk to the couples in advance to make sure they're alright with the plan. And if it's not going to work out perfectly, don't force it. In most cases, you're going to have to choose one.
If you have a significant other, consider dividing and conquering! It may not feel like an ideal situation (no, you won't get to bust a move on the dance floor together, but both sets of newlyweds will be grateful that you put in the effort to show your support at both celebrations.
3Immediate family comes first
It would be super fun to see all those college friends at your former roommate's nuptials, but your family would never let you forget it if your missed your brother’s wedding. Same goes for your significant other’s immediate family. You wouldn’t want to look back on those family photos and be the only one not in them!
4Fulfill your duty in the wedding party
If you already agreed to stand up in the wedding, you’re definitely obliged to attend that one — no playing Katherine Heigl a la 27 Dresses!
5Choose what you can afford
Your second cousin is having a Punta Cana wedding? Awesome — for them, but maybe not for your bank account. If you're not really not sure which wedding to attend (and there are no other major factors in play), it’s perfectly acceptable to choose the one that’ll be friendlier to your finances.
6Consider how close you are to the couple
The colleague you've sat next to at the office for 2 years, or the childhood next-door neighbor who you swam in the kiddie pool with? There’s an argument for either, but your relationship with the couple should play a significant factor in your decision. Who will appreciate your presence more? Who are you more excited to celebrate?
7Make it up to the couple you couldn't celebrate with
Sending a wedding gift even if you can’t make it to the party is a nice thought. But if you were really conflicted, don’t stop there. Set up a dinner date, a weekend getaway, or another time to catch up and celebrate their marriage. If you have a wedding and another wedding event (bridal shower, bachelorette, etc.) on the same day...
8The wedding gets first dibs
After all, those other events are preliminaries leading up to a wedding, so the bride- or groom-to-be will totally understand if you have to be at someone else's. Just promise them that you’ll make it to their big day, even if you can’t get to the smaller celebrations.
9Stop by the smaller party, if you can
Let the host know that you won't be able to stay, but if your schedule allows, drop in before the wedding ceremony. (If it’s a daytime bridal shower and an evening wedding, you might be able to go to both!) Your effort and expert scheduling skills will be much appreciated!
10Send a gift or a card for parties you can't attend
A nice note or a gift from the couple’s registry is a sweet way to say you wish you could have been at the bash. No need to go crazy — something simple will do the trick! We know this can be a sticky situation to navigate, Loverlies. Do your best to weigh your options and make a decision that will make everyone feel as loved and supported as they are. Good luck out there!